Have you ever thought about not being trans enough? Or is this idea alien to you? If you have never faced it—you are so lucky! Unfortunately, many transgender people must live with this question haunting them.
One of the biggest problems why FTM people meet this issue—too many myths and opinions about what a "real" trans should look and act like. Other people and the environment plays a huge role on your journey as a transgender.
💜 If You Feel Trans, You Are Trans
It is totally normal and understandable not to be completely sure about your gender identity. Despite all doubts—if you feel like you are transgender, you are transgender.
✨ The Only Thing That Matters
Being trans is not what you do about it—it's the internal sense of self and the relationship you have with yourself.
Are There Requirements for My Look?
No. Definitely no. There is no existing picture or example of how the "real" trans should look like. The most important point is to feel yourself like a trans. Your gender is yours and does not belong to anybody.
MYTH
"FTM people must have short hair"
TRUTH
You can have any hairstyle you want
MYTH
"FTM people can't wear dresses or skirts"
TRUTH
You are free to wear whatever you want
Sometimes people who should support you (even other transgender people) are inclined to judge your look. Remember: you are free to express yourself in your way and there is no need to try to please other people.
Do I Need Medical Intervention?
Medical intervention does not make you "a real" transgender. Beginning this kind of procedure or not is only your decision. Not all transgender people feel the need for medical intervention.
Your Choice
Only you decide what's necessary for you
Valid Either Way
You're trans with or without surgery
Ignore Others
Don't listen to uninvited opinions
💡 Remember
If you don't want to have surgery, that is totally fine. If you are happy with your look, this is perfect. Medical intervention does not mean you will become "more" transgender.
There Is No Wrong Way to Be Trans
Being transgender is not a competition. Our society is full of different people who have totally different experiences. There is no such thing as being "a real" or "less real" transgender.
✨ You Are Free To...
Feel different feelings at different times
Be certain and uncertain again about something
Change your look with medical intervention
Not change your look at all
Create your own happiness on your own terms
Your identity is yours and no one else's. Other people can't know you better than you know yourself. Your story is not everyone's story.
You Are Trans Enough
One of the main things to consider—your relationship with yourself and understanding who you truly are. There are so many ways to be trans and to express yourself as a transgender. There is no right or wrong way.
🧪 Not Sure? You Can Experiment!
It is always useful to try new things and see what works for you and what doesn't. Always think about yourself, your personal needs, feelings, and your mental health.
💜 You Are Valid. You Are Enough.
If you feel good in your own skin and you think that you are trans—you truly are.
Do other people accuse you of not being trans enough? Just smile and leave them without any answer. They are not right, but you are.
Remember: there is no wrong way of being trans, no matter what other people say or think. ✨