FTM at a male's bathroom
Trans people meet many difficulties in their daily lives. One of them—using the public bathroom. Have you ever thought that such a natural and simple action can become a massive dilemma for transgender people?
Yes, you have read it correctly—a lot of FTM people have faced situations when they weren't sure which public restroom they should use. Let's find out what to expect when using the men's bathroom.
Don't Be Afraid
You are transgender and you feel yourself like a man? It means—you are a man. If you are a man, you definitely have the right to use a men's bathroom. It is normal to be afraid of stepping into a new and unfamiliar space, but the most important thing is not to let fear stop you.
✨ Remember This
Gender identity is more relevant than biological sex. This idea should be leading for FTM people who feel stressed or unsure about entering the men's bathroom.
Fear related to leaving a comfort zone is often a barrier to new and life-changing experiences. It could be uncomfortable at the beginning, but it shouldn't stop you from living a normal life.
What to Expect in Men's Restrooms
Patience Required
The first thing you'll meet in the men's bathroom—a line of waiting people. Men are used to not hurrying. If you need to pee only, the line moves fairly fast. For anything else... visit the toilet before you leave home!
Less Conversation
Men are less friendly than women in bathrooms. They are really quiet—no speaking, no eye contact, no communication. The main purpose: do the thing, leave. No chatting, no smiling.
Lower Cleanliness Standards
You will be surprised (in a bad way) how unclean men's bathrooms can be. Don't expect the same level of tidiness as women's restrooms. It's best to just accept this reality.
💡 Pro Tip
FTM people may find a huge difference in atmosphere when comparing men's and women's bathrooms. The best approach is to accept reality and not think too much about it.
🎯 Get Your First STP Packer
The majority of FTM people would agree that their lives changed after getting their first STP (Stand To Pee) prosthetic. The STP packer allows you to urinate while standing up.
Imagine how great it would be to feel free to pee with no stress or fear that somebody will notice. We live in a modern world where each FTM person can buy a prosthetic that looks exactly like a real penis!
Cup for comfortable peeing
Funnel for urine flow
Ultra-realistic design
There are different ways to keep your packer in place: specially designed packing underwear, straps/harnesses, or adhesive. It's recommended to practice at home first to understand how to use it properly.
Explore STP Packers →Tips for Using Men's Bathrooms
💡 Making Your Journey Easier
Feel safe using men's bathrooms at big social events (concerts, sports games)—even women use them due to shorter lines!
Do it as fast as possible. Other people won't have time to pay attention to you.
No eye contact! This is normal male bathroom etiquette.
Stay sober in public places to avoid dangerous situations and maintain awareness.
🚨 Safety First!
If the bathroom looks unsafe or there are suspicious people inside, it is better to use the women's restroom. Your safety should always be the first priority!
Here's a helpful YouTube video you should watch for more tips! 😊
If Someone Questions You
If you ever get comments from other people about using the bathroom, here are some phrases you can use: